VietNamNet Bridge – A debate has been raised by VietNamNet’s readers about whether to give
money to children to reward for children’s efforts.
A lot
of Vietnamese parents nowadays believe that giving money to children is the
best way to ask the children to do the things they want.
When
asking the son, a 3rd grader, to go to the shop near his home to buy a pack of
cigarettes, Kien in Hoai Duc district in Hanoi, said: “Go and buy. I will give
you 5000 dong.”
The boy
immediately left for the cigarette shop, without any words. 5000 dong is the
sum of money he always receives after fulfill a thing as requested by the
parents. Therefore, he believes that paying money is a must when someone is
served.
When
asked why Kien promised to give the boy 5000 dong, Kien smiled and said that if
he had not offered the “award,” the boy would not have left for buying
cigarettes for him. As such, Kien now can earn his money by providing services
to his father.
Hue, a
mother in Thanh Tri district, also thinks that it would be better to encourage
children with money. Every time when her child cries or refuses meals, she
would promise to give the child money.
“My
child suffers from the anorexia. Therefore, I have to promise to give her 2000
dong to persuade him to eat meat,” she said. “Sometimes I have to give 5000
dong.”
When
asked if this is a good way to use money to educate children, Vietnamese
parents all have a common voice that this should not be an education method.
Surprisingly, both Kien and Hue do not agree to the education method. However,
they still use the way every day to seek their wishes fulfilled.
Educators
have warned the parents who try to use money to educate children that the cash
bonus would “harm” the children. They would always bargain with parents about
the sums of money the parents need to give them when asking them to do
something. Especially, they would not understand the value of the money, and
that their parents can only earn money from sweated labor.
Ha, the
man in Quoc Oai district in Hanoi, related that one day, she asked a niece to
go buying a pack of cards for the guests to play after the family party. As the
niece said she did not want to go under the sun, Ha gave 2000 dong to the girl,
saying that this is the award for her.
However,
to Ha’s surprise, the girl did not accept the “gift.” “You cannot buy anything
with 2000 dong now,” the girl said. Finally, she only left for the pack of
cards after Ha gave her a 5000 dong bank note.
“Instead
of using money to stimulate children, why don’t parents think of bringing the
kids to the parks or buying the toys they like?” Huong, a parent whose child
goes to the Song Phuong Primary School questioned.
In the
eyes of international labor managers, Vietnamese people keep a combination of
odd features: they are both frugal and squandered.
While
the students in 1990s were told that money would associate with crimes, the
students in the 21st century believe that everything can be bought with money,
while they would not go to school if the parents to not give them money.
Nowadays,
in many families, money is given to children when they fulfill normal duties
such as doing home exercises, cleaning rooms, washing dishes or taking care for
younger brothers.
Nguyen
Hien
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